Friday, November 11, 2011


i am on a soapbox today and here is your warning...proceed with caution.

so i am a sobbing, snot-bubbling sap today and i feel that the only way to feel better is to get this out. even if nobody reads it, at least it's out there. and for the people that may read this, i am prepared to lose 'friends', fans and possible clients because of this. but i feel it needs to be said and i need to get it off my chest. these are my opinions, it does not mean that i am right, it is just how i feel. and you can't argue with someone's feelings. you may not agree with me, but please at least respect my right to express these feelings...hey, there it's my RIGHT...because i am an American.

if you know me, you know i'm extremely sentimental and emotional. i'm loyal and protective. i'm opinionated and passionate. and i am also a very proud person. i'm not talking about arrogance or ego, i'm talking about pride.

i have pride in myself for building a business out of a dream. pride in myself for being a person of integrity, self respect, honor & honesty. pride in myself for always standing up for what i believe in. pride in myself for not letting people take advantage of my loyalty and giving nature anymore. pride in the few people i consider to be a true friend because they support me, listen to me, help me up when i'm in a funk and are genuinely happy when i succeed at my business. they aren't competing with me, they don't expect anything from me, they just want my friendship, love, encouragement, and support in return. i'm proud to have surrounded myself with positive people and rid myself of negativity.

i'm proud of my coaching position. proud that i get to work with young women and have a hand in molding them into good athletes, students and members of society. i am proud every time they succeed at something and can't wait to tell me or show me. i'm proud of every high five, hug and thank you i've received. i am proud that i am making a difference in some of their lives. 

i'm proud of my husband, both as a man and a daddy. i'm proud of all that he's accomplished in his career. i'm also proud that he is MY husband. i'm proud everytime he tells me he loves me because there are days when i'm not so easy to love.
i'm proud of my marriage. proud that we've been together nearly 10 years and married for just over 6. proud that we are best friends and still very much in love. proud that we have never given up on eachother or our relationship when sometimes it would've been easier. i have pride in how we've worked as a team to fight, claw and hold on for dear life to get to where we are today. pride in the fact that we live a great life, not surrounded by material possessions but by love. i'm proud that we live simply and work hard for what we do have. i'm proud of the life we've created and future we have before us. i'm proud of our greatest accomplishments, our 2 babies.

i have pride in my kids. i am proud as i watch them grow into respectful, well-mannered little people. i am proud when they eat all their food, brush their teeth, wash their hands or pick up their toys. i am proud when they say yes m'am or yes sir. i am proud when they address adults as miss and mister. i have pride in their love for eachother. i am proud of every little thing they do and say, even when they are rotten. they are mine and i am proud to be their mommy.

i am proud that i come from a long line of military that fought to keep our freedom. i am proud that i enlisted in the Marines. i am proud that even though my health kept me from going, i had the guts to try and serve our country. i am proud of my freedom and my rights. i am proud that i don't just say it on certain holidays, but i show it, i act it, i teach it, i believe it. i have pride in my country. i am proud to be an american every single day, not just on veteran's day or memorial day. EVERY SINGLE DAY!

and here comes the rant...

where is the pride in America the whole year, not just on holidays? where is the pride in our rights and freedoms? where is the pride in your country that you no longer want to say the Pledge of Allegiance, or put your hand over your heart during the National Anthem?

am i in the minority that i still believe in the way our grandparents and great grandparents were taught? that good morals were just as important as the manners that were expected? that holding a door open for the next person was polite? that saying thank you meant you truly were grateful? that not getting what you wanted all the time, was not the end of the world and you could, in fact, survive on only what you needed?

what has happened to the respect and integrity people used to have? the appreciation in the military that fought so many wars? the obligation people felt to support our military while at war? such a respect of our freedoms and rights that they wouldn't dare dishonor our country? the respect for our president, whether or not you agreed with him? the respect for our government, regardless of your political stance? when did it become ok to bash everyone if they didn't believe the same as you?

when did the appreciation of a gift get overriden by the feeling of entitlement? when did people stop believing that hard work and dedication would get you far in life? that an unemployment check was disgraceful and any job was better than no job at all? when did credit cards become a necessity? when did people forget that they don't need all those fancy clothes, a big diamond ring, a mortgage you can't afford and a car that's more expensive than your child's college education? when did expensive toys and luxuries go from a hard-earned accomplishment to a selfish expectation? when did an ipod, ipad, Wii, nintendo ds, xbox, more than one computer per household, a cell phone for every kid, and a brand new car for your kid that's just gonna wreck it and didn't even work for said car (this list could go on) become necessities? when did dinner as a family stop being important? when did a text become better communication than a phone call? when did buying your kids all the new 'toys' become more important than love and discipline?

when did the sanctity of marriage become a joke? when did divorce become an easy way out? why do people get married if they're not going to fight for their marriage? when did it become ok to interfere with another person's marriage? why are cheating spouses bashed and home wreckers get off scot-free? when did people stop respecting other people's family? when did having a family go from a privelage to a social inconvenience? when did it become ok for parents to stop parenting? why is the responsibility of raising a child left up to the daycare provider, teachers and coaches? where is your pride while you're allowing your kids to be disrespectful, dishonest, immoral, ungrateful, entitled, and lazy? why are you letting your kids break rules? why are they getting bad grades and you're blaming the teacher? why do you expect your child to be an athletic all-star when they're not willing to put in the effort? why is it the coach's fault if your child is lazy and doesn't get any better? why are you allowing your child to exploit themselves in a sexual way? why are you not invading their privacy to actually get to know your child and have some control over them? why are they sending naked photos of themselves through the internet or their phones and you're not punishing them? when did it become a bad thing to punish your child? why are you rewarding your child's bad behavior?

when did you forget how to just be a good person? when did you lose focus on what was an important necessity and what was just a luxury? when did the pride of having a job, a roof over your head and a healthy family stop being enough? when did you become so arrogant that you felt you deserved anything without earning it? when did you go from exuding confidence to being the epitomy of selfish behavior? why do you feel you deserve respect when all you do is disrespect?
why are you spitting on the graves of the military men and women that died for all that you have today? why are you taking your freedom and rights for granted? why are you a hypocrite that thanks our military on a holiday, but disgraces the integrity of our country the rest of the year?
why, why, why?
why are you like this american people??



Anonymous said...

just read this......i am so thankful to know that there are other young couples, mothers, fathers, etc. out there who share the same values that my husband and i do! sometimes it feels like there is no sanity, reason, respect, no morals, responsibility left in our generation.......for me, this passage in 2Timothy 3 sums up the answers to the questions "why? when did we lose our sense of purpose"??? 2Timothy 3:1-5 says: "This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away."
God knew what was is such a ray of hope to see some "fight" still left in us to hold onto something good.....thank you for your post:) it's so encouraging to see you want to hold onto what you know is good and right!

Anonymous said...

Great blog, as said above, so thankful to know that there are others out there with the same views... especially on parenting. These days are so sad.